Can Men and Women Ever Really Just Be Friends?

As J–Hus made clear to us that he ‘wanna get friendly with her…’ and definitely not meaning just as a platonic friend, I wanted to raise the question of whether men and women can indeed just be friends at all. I have a couple of really good friends that are guys. They are my confidants, … Continue reading Can Men and Women Ever Really Just Be Friends?

The Four-date Rule

Four dates. Apparently. That’s how long a girl should wait before having sex with a guy she’s dating. Wait wasn’t that Mila Kunis’s magic number too, in ‘Friends with Benefits’?   No, this is not a statistic or average that Cosmo magazine came up with in their most recent publication, but instead Maverick’s average wait time. … Continue reading The Four-date Rule

Settling Down: Is It Just Me Who Almost Fears This?

I think I am a bit of a commitment-phobe. I walk around arguing with both the world and my loved ones about how everyone else has someone, and I cannot seem to find anyone. At all. Ever. Except I can. I just don't think anyone has caught my fancy for long enough to want me … Continue reading Settling Down: Is It Just Me Who Almost Fears This?

Rejection: It’s Okay to Lose Sometimes

'Rejection sucks! With every no, or I'm not feeling this, or I don't want anything right now, I feel as though the problem is unambiguously me. Honestly, I’m rejected even when there are no real tell-tale signs that it is going badly. Either that or I am blinded to it. That could be it. Perhaps … Continue reading Rejection: It’s Okay to Lose Sometimes

Modern Dating: How Does it Work and What to Expect?

I'm a believer in a fairy-tale. In the old-school love story. 1950s carnival. Guy sees the girl playing a game at a stall, he goes over and strikes up a conversation, and the rest is history. I once even read a story about an older couple, on Instagram. When asked how they met, the man … Continue reading Modern Dating: How Does it Work and What to Expect?

Looks or Personality: What Matters More?

So I like to think I'm Beyoncé. Perfect features, a figure to die for – even when pregnant with twins – and a personality and drive that run circles around just about every human on the planet; yet on a scale of relationship to single, I don't really associate myself with the former. In fact … Continue reading Looks or Personality: What Matters More?


Love. A word recognised the world over. Four little letters that bear the most weight of any word within the English language. One syllable that can change your life forever... It's a gift being loved and to love someone. A gift we often don't realise we have received until it's gone. Not only is it … Continue reading Love

First Date Don’ts…

Have you ever been in a situation where you’ve been on a really amazing first date, but the person you were seeing never followed up for a second or even texted you back? So I’ve been in both situations, one where I was ghosted after the date, and also been the person to say that … Continue reading First Date Don’ts…

It’s a Numbers Game

Readers, I am currently writing to you from a rather gloriously sunny beach on the Island of Pag in Croatia. A remixed version of Ed Sheeran's Shape of You is blasting through the sound system of Aquarius club on this interesting party Island, and after a week at Fresh Island Festival, I have a few … Continue reading It’s a Numbers Game

Enlightened… A Change in My Date Game…

‘We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.’ – Buddha. I believe that the universe sends us signals, if of course we are entirely open to them, or at least willing to take notice of the pattern of events … Continue reading Enlightened… A Change in My Date Game…